Lets look at the first Reiki Principle - Just for today, I will not be angry. Anger is consuming on so many levels and it can be super fast, rising up within us like fierce, raging fire BUT what if I said you had a choice? What if you tuned into that anger, listened to it and tried to really understand why it is actually there in the first place? You may always have certain things that trigger anger, but it is how you deal with it when it does come up that matters. You can chose whether to stay in that low vibrational emotion and hold onto it, or you can chose to let it go and feel peace instead. Anger only creates further blockages, so staying on top of it by looking at it with a whole new perception is a really positive tool to help keep your energy and emotions more balanced, flowing and free.
I spent most of my life bottling up my emotions and feelings up until the last few years, which also meant I hardly ever expressed any anger as I just wanted everything to be OK and to be strong (although I did not see that being strong is actually being authentic and open) this meant I had a huge amount of pain to release which would come out as anger whenever I was caught off guard, like if I had alcoholic drinks for example and it would unleash tears and words which I had never had the courage to say before. When I did begin to look deeply into myself without toxic substances in the way, then all of the blocked emotions that had built up over the years came out strong and without any control at times. However, my willingness to look within and face all of the pain and emotion in which I was fully aware was at the very root of any anger or fear, made the process more bearable. It is safe to say that from the moment I began to tune into energy and become aware of my healing abilities, is the moment when I really tuned into my true self and was able to see myself outside of my ego. It is so unhealthy for our energy to keep things in and we are not living in our truth or in our power if we are not being authentic in our feelings and expressions! I spent far too long pretending I was OK when I wasn't and this really does have its consequences in so many ways..one of the main things to remember is that these buried feelings will not simply vanish one day, they are within our cells and they can manifest as anger, resentment or even physical ailments if not looked at. Reiki is a very powerful and beautiful way in which we can release these pains and blockages we may be holding onto.
So, next time you find yourself in a place of anger - take a moment, breathe and look at it closely.. look where the anger is really coming from because it will always be coming from somewhere else, sometimes a very deep place of pain which has not been healed or sometimes because you are actually very worried and have a lot fear about a person or situation for example. Try and understand where it is rooting from, even in that split second. Once you do this more frequently it will become more of a natural response for you and it will be easier as each time you are choosing not to substitute an emotion with anger! Anger is only a temporary cover up and it actually prolongs things, rather than actually facing the reality of what has caused it.
If you are in a situation where another person is acting in anger; instead of reacting back with anger on top of anger, try and look at that person with an open heart and see that they are an individual being too with their own pains and problems, so maybe there anger is coming from one of those places, just as it does with you in your own individual way. Pair anger with empathy! Once we begin to view anger in this way, each time it arises within us we can conquer it quicker and in turn this will lessen that reaction in us over time, and if we are ready to face it we can go to the foundation of that anger in each situation that it may arise if we want to, we can go to that deep emotion that needs to be looked at and faced, as it just keeps coming up again and again which is why it is now manifesting as anger; this could be jealousy, abandonment, loneliness, feeling unloved, loss for example.
In my personal journey with looking at my own anger on a deep level, after working through releasing the old emotions and blocks initially, I realised that if I ever felt anger within me that it mostly came from my own self-esteem issues but also due to the fact that I too often overcare in certain situations. Overcare is really deceptive because although it comes from a place of love and compassion, it basically turns a caring thought into a worry, frustration or anger! For example, when my partner does not feel well, I worry so much I find myself in a feeling of total fear and stress, purely because I love him so much that I just want him to feel good, but what good does that really do... Does it help him? No. Does it help me? Most certainly not! It actually does no good in the situation at all other than causes extra stress! So, if you are a hyper sensitive and empathetic being like me and you care about everyone and everything a bit too deeply, try and work through that and come on top it by using tools which work for you, get yourself into a heart space where you can have compassion and appreciation without the worry or stress.
Do not ignore anger or sit with that feeling, instead see it as something to be thankful for, as if each time anger arises it makes us take a moment to understand ourselves or another person on a deeper level then we can chose to replace anger with forgiveness, we can chose love. This is not about being a 'perfect' human being who does not get angry, its about tuning into our energy and our emotions and creating a greater awareness of self and others, understanding on a deeper level so we can feel better in ourselves and feel HAPPY! The willingness to look within and go through self-work to develop, grow and heal is the greatest gift you can do for yourself.. self awareness is key!
Just for today I will not be angry.