There are so many things in life that can cause us worry...whether its money, career, relationships, health, self-esteem, the list could go on, and I am pretty sure everybody out there has experienced worry of some kind! Worry is something I have suffered with a lot so I know the feeling very deeply, I still suffer with it now but tools like this mantra and the following points really help me cope and see the bigger picture in situations, so I hope that this can help any other worrying souls out there too!
Worry roots from fear and it feels as if it consumes every single cell; heart pounding, sick feeling in the stomach, breathless, mind racing, thoughts going wild thinking of every possibility, feeling the pain and intensity of completely made-up situations as if it is happening there and then, not wanting to use the phone in fear that you are going to be told something bad has happened.. all of this may sound extreme, but some of us go through worry to that extent in day to day life, or have periods of it at least, and it can be absolutely crippling in every sense.
Through experiencing worry on such a deep level for so many years of my life, I have learnt a lot about the energy of worry itself. Worrying is an absolute waste of our energy! When we worry we waste energy through an outlet of total fear, when actually we could be spending that energy elsewhere, on positive things that serve us for example! Worrying does not change a single thing, it is purely a state of mind and the only thing it changes is yourself - emotionally, energetically and even physically, it is draining!
If we lived in the present, we would not worry! So next time you find yourself stricken with worry, try and remember that worrying cannot prevent a situation and it cannot really change it. We can not alter the past, there is nothing that can be done, so why waste that energy even thinking about it? We can learn from our experiences and take valuable lessons, but then we have to let go so we can move forward and be in the NOW. As for the future, we have no real control over it, we should be focusing on our present! We can have a plan or vision of what path we are going to take to get where we want to be, but ultimately there are so many other factors that are part of our future, of which we have no control over.
It is good to remember that fear is a natural survival instinct and feeling that we do in fact need when the time is right as it creates a sense of awareness for danger/negative situations, but it is when it comes into our every day life, when it is there for no reason and causing us harm and using up our energy that it is something for you to look at and change. Coming to a state of acceptance that whatever is going to happen will happen is key. We must learn that our worry and fear is not going to alter anything and it actually holds us back.
Next time you find yourself in a worrying state then try and take control of that energy and channel it into another place.. visualise a positive situation in regards to what you are worrying about and see a positive outcome instead and send the situation love, send yourself love. Most of all, it is about trust and surrendering.. trusting in the universe and the flow of life, truly surrendering to the fact that whatever life throws at you, there will be a deeper reason for it and you will find the strength to deal with it or resolve it, as sometimes in life we find things work out the complete different way to what we had imagined, and it may be a rocky road and some things may have happened that we never could have imagined we would get through, but we did get through it, and this is what we need to surrender to and trust by coming into our heart space! If we do not then we are at risk of letting fear and worry consume us and we will not leave any room for the good stuff...the joy, the love, the confidence, the stuff we want to bring into our lives and enjoy on a daily basis, because that is what we deserve! If we let our head and our ego take over then we would stay in the stagnant energy of worry and fear and we would lose our real sense of self. Every single one of us has a choice to chose LOVE or FEAR!!!!
Just for today, I will not worry.